Is your adult child with ADHD having a rough time? Would you like to help them, but aren’t sure how? It starts with you! It takes practice, especially when your adult complex child has a rough time and is angry, defiant, or withdrawn. Don’t give up!
Do you remember how easy it was to love your children when they were little? Your heart was soft; you would hug them and reassure them that everything would be all right. How about practicing that love again and again?
When times are especially tough, make it a daily routine. Have a picture of your child in front of you and sense their true essence. Reflect on their characteristics. Do you see joy, curiosity, playfulness, innocence? Their true essence has not changed, even if it’s clouded by current difficulties. If you want, you may even reflect on the traditional loving-kindness meditation and wish them:
- May you be safe
- May you be healthy
- May you be happy
- May you live with ease…
Loving your adult complex child through difficult patches does not mean you cannot have requests, expectations, or boundaries. Be sure to communicate with them from a place of love, without trying to fix or control, and without expecting anything in return. Remember that loving other people doesn’t reward the other person, it rewards us.
Do you want to help your child even more?
Schedule a complimentary Clarity Call.
Let’s have a conversation about your relationship, dreams, hopes, and desires, and what’s getting in the way for both you and your adult complex child. Giving yourself the gift of coaching can help both of you.
If appropriate, we can discuss coaching together longer term.
